Rape–A Societal Block (Reblogged)

Rape: A Societal Block

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If you don’t feel her terror, you are not human!

“Student abducted, raped in moving car in Gurgaon, one held; Mumbai: Eighty-year-old arrested for ‘raping’ eight-year-old girl; Delhi High Court says 14-year-old gave consent, convict’s rape term reduced; Four-year-old girl raped by school van driver: Police”

Rape rears its ugly façade almost every day in daily newspapers through these headlines. News is filled with all kind of cases from brutal rape and murder by strangers to gang-rape by acquaintances to even rape by own relatives and spouse and it’s not limited to girls in their ‘ripe ages’ with ‘full blossom’ but the mentality has degraded to an extent that even a minor girl of 4 years, an infant girl or an old lady in her eighties are not spared.

Can anyone justify what do such ‘monsters’ see in a 4-year-old innocent girl and let alone an infant?

No! I am not justifying that raping a 20 year girl is acceptable but I am trying to question those who mercilessly blame that women show their body to get raped! She automatically becomes a target of ‘Victim-blaming’, where she is not just a victim of dreadful crime but a sadist society as well!

Sexual violence is often normalized and excused under allegations.

 “She should not have worn such clothes, after all boys will be boys!” “Oh! She was drunk, this was bound to happen, she had no moral values!”, “A husband has a right on a Women’s body that is not rape!”, ”Why was she working so late, a woman should be home before sunset!”

The irony is many times women themselves are seen justifying above statements! This does not make me angry but I pity such women and I have empathy for them. By labeling or accusing the victim, women can see the victim as different from themselves. These women reassure themselves by thinking, “Because I am not like her, because I do not do that, this would never happen to me.” Really? Wish that was true but it’s not, It can happen to anyone!

We need to stop objectification of women’s body and glamorization of sexual violence! It’s not a women’s fault, not her fate, not something a women need to be ashamed of, she did nothing to provoke rape and she is definitely not ‘sinned’.

I have come across varied views on rape as a societal block, but mostly they fall in to two main categories.

One who thinks rape is women’s fault!

To all the ‘wise men and women’ out there who sit at the ‘comfort of their home’ and lecture on how a girl could have avoided rape, how she invited it, have you ever thought how despicable you’re thinking is?

All are not born with luxury in their lap! There are women who are the sole bread-winner of their family, there are women who are ambitious, and there are women who are free-thinkers, who believe in living their life.

But yes! With all due respect to your sordid mentality, No one just no one asks to be raped! In the process of justifying your morbid thinking you are not just ‘Slut-shaming’ the victim but shielding the rapist as well!

There are no words to describe the horror of images of a women being dehumanized, barely considered a human corpse with alien looking fingers moving all over the flesh. When the hunger is met for and after hours of torture, disgrace, enormous pain and helplessness, she is thrown away, lifeless, like a piece of trash; in a gutter; on the road; railway tracks or even brutally murdered.

On the other hand, we have quite a good number of ‘men and women with moral values’ who supports grave punishment for rapist, they don’t blame women and are against slut-shaming, I am sure most of you reading this fall under this category.

Yes, we are filled with anger, we criticize, we organize candle marches, we cry, we have guilt’s that we live in a society where women still don’t have any rights to live freely. Yes, we are ‘good human beings!’

May I ask, have you ever stopped a boy from eve teasing a girl in your own society, while you were crossing the lanes during office hours? ‘I would have, if only I was not getting late for office.’

May I ask, have you ever talked to your male child when you saw him watching a scene in a movie about a girl being hit by her boyfriend? ‘I would have but he is only a child, he wouldn’t understand.’

May I ask, how many times in your own office, home or society have you ever stood against injustice to women, no matter how minor it is? ‘I would have, but that is not under my control’

May I ask to all women, how many times have you stood for the rights of your own daughters, sisters, and relatives in front of the men in the house? ‘I would have, but men are the decision-maker, aren’t they?

You cannot bring about a National change,   if you are not ready to fight for it in your own homes, own societies, own cities. Stop playing a victim in your own homes, stop being a spectator, stop accepting things that you think is wrong.

It’s high time we learn to take a stand!Advertisements

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50 thoughts on “Rape: A Societal Block”

  1. AnonymousFEBRUARY 11, 2019 AT 10:29 PMsuperb! Brilliant! Splendid!Loading…REPLY
  2. chirag1262MAY 10, 2018 AT 7:17 PMVery good read. Please do give my article on capital punishments a read on how rapes can be prevented. Loading…REPLY
  3. Shivam RajMAY 1, 2018 AT 9:10 PMThe most important thing was Authority fails to frame the policy of security and it implement on the grounds level, this leads to grown these type of activity tremendously , on this time this type of authentic voice is really needed , well effort Loading…REPLY
  4. NateshAPRIL 30, 2018 AT 10:31 PMBeautiful post ! looking forward to see more on this topic ! keep up your good work.I have written something similar.Feel free to have a look at it.
    https://natesh557112956.wordpress.com/2018/04/29/respect-female/Loading…REPLY
  5. LifebeyondimaginationAPRIL 14, 2018 AT 11:05 PMVery true post… it is all because of physicality of life, the society play big role in this kind of acts and everyone talks about rape, punishment, give sympathy but no one ever focusing on its solution, the transformation at individual level is needed, rape is not only a sexual fulfilment a men look for it is more than that, he wants to possess the thing because somewhere consciously or unconsciously it is implemented in man mind that women are an object, object that can be possessed….It is true punishment is to be given to the one who commits this kind of act but more than that important is its solution and for that Transformation is required, transformation at the individual level in this world, which can make men come out the boundaries of the physicality of life and be connected to existence consciously…Nice post dear…Loading…REPLY
  6. A Journey In WordsAPRIL 11, 2018 AT 4:52 PMLove this post. Totally true! So many women and girls blame themselves for sexual abuse or blame a victim due to what they were wearing or how they were behaving. But these things still give a man absolutely no right to sexually harass someone against their will. People always think that alone they cannot do anything to make the change, but it has to start somewhere and with someone right?!Loading…REPLY
    • AshritaAPRIL 11, 2018 AT 4:57 PMThat is true and I agree. The mindset has to change and it has to start with self first. Thanks for penning down your thoughts here and glad you liked the post.Loading…REPLY
  7. Love you mom FEBRUARY 19, 2018 AT 9:47 PMLoading…REPLY
  8. liberated558FEBRUARY 6, 2018 AT 4:24 PMNot everyone can or wants to speak up about being raped. It’s always her choice and should never be forced to. Sometimes just knowing women are speaking can be hopeful. Thank you. I’m on twitter also if you want to connect @WolfCub657 where I talk about a range of topic relating to male violenceLoading…REPLY
  9. liberated558FEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 10:38 PMThere is more that society can do, individually and as a whole, to deal with this issue and it starts with actually listening to victims of these crimes. I spent most of my life being raped and being blamed in one form or another. Many of us, women, spend every waking minute trying to bring about some change which will benefit victims. How can you help? Next time a woman or child tells you they fear for their safety or they have been raped, listen without question. We don’t need rescuing, we need freedom that men have already been granted. My blog is to bring attention to women’s issues and male violence, feel free to get in touchLoading…REPLY
    • AshritaFEBRUARY 6, 2018 AT 10:23 AMThanks a lot for putting this across. You inspired me and I am sure have been inspiring a number of women out there to be strong and to come forward and raise voice, fight for right! I am glad to connect with you and would be happy to be in touch. Take care.Loading…REPLY
  10. Beparvah !!FEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 11:50 AMI can only say that, initially i thought it was driven my lust but later on I realized that its about a sadistic pleasure which one gets while imposing himself/herself over a weak victim/survivor.. So essentially, its not only about a pound of flesh but also n unreasonable domination and expression of power in this patriarchy which is certainly followed by lack of tolerance, inferiority complex which mostly men suffer..The only solution is to raise voice and strike back with equal force at every level that is both at a personal level, and also at the executive and judicial levelThank youLoading…REPLY
    • AshritaFEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 12:55 PMThat’s true! Thanks for putting across your thoughts.Loading…REPLY
      • Beparvah !!FEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 5:31 PMIts completely my pleasure ..
        In fact thank you for raising this issue..because it will open a Pandora box
        I thus believe the more we EMPOWER GIRLS (politically, socially and economically) the more rapidly this can be reduced.. Instead of demanding EQUALITY because in this struggle the claims are restricted to the standard of men which will not be the optimum use of women’s potential as many believe that women do possess more potential than men !Thank You !Loading…
      • AshritaFEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 5:40 PMAbsolutely! Half of the crimes against women will decrease once the women are made self-sufficient and other half in the subsequent generations.Loading…
      • Beparvah !!FEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 6:10 PMI think this post of yours will develop and cement many more such strong, clear and unadulterated thoughts and change will soon be visible !!
        Do take care and thank you again for sharing this post followed by such thoughts !Loading…
      • AshritaFEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 8:30 PMThanks a lot for your kind words. Take care.Loading…
      • Beparvah !!FEBRUARY 5, 2018 AT 8:42 PMYou’re welcome
        It was really nice to be connected !!
        Keep sharing such wonderful and insightful posts..Loading…
  11. dravnish9FEBRUARY 2, 2018 AT 8:42 PMWell dats d harsh reality of our society…Injustice 2women prevails in all stratas 4m rich 2poor…Its high time people started talking about it.. atleast..Loading…REPLY
  12. world4womencomFEBRUARY 1, 2018 AT 2:44 PMIronically we are nation who revolts against a piece of fiction in the name of our history and pride but real issues that actually shames a country is spoken about. What a shame.Loading…REPLY
    • AshritaFEBRUARY 1, 2018 AT 3:34 PMThat’s true! Instead of revolting for issues that are history if we joined hands for safety, integrity and rights of women who are alive, a lot could have been different today!Loading…REPLY
  13. floatinggoldFEBRUARY 1, 2018 AT 7:07 AMGreat call to action. Well said.
    Btw, I nominated you for a blogging award. Details can be found here:https://dailyflabbergast.wordpress.com/2018/01/31/appreciate/5/
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  14. roijoyeuxFEBRUARY 1, 2018 AT 1:01 AMThey are taking actions now since the Harvey Weintein case, and people like you help the causeLoading…REPLY
  15. @gauravskainturaJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 3:32 PMGood posts. Well pointed out. Hope it will have impact on all.Loading…REPLY
  16. kavyanjalidubeyJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 2:16 PMI don’t have much words to describe my feelings right now. But as a woman I do feel that Yes! we need to stand up for ourselves and should stop being a victim of fate! Thanks for this post Ashrita.Loading…REPLY
  17. Amit SaxenaJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 2:06 PMI am speechless! Each one of us sitting and watching such news on televisions do get provoked, we all think at that moment that we would do something about it but only momentarily. Why? Its a mindset if it doesn’t happen to us, it doesn’t affect us. We all comprehend the facts but exclude it the minute next headline flashes by. As men, I feel shameful for all the times, I might have knowingly or unknowingly overlooked a ‘girl in need of help’!Loading…REPLY
  18. Pantho The Tragic HeroJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:54 PMNothing else to sayLoading…REPLY
  19. ifnashuJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:11 PMThought provokingREPLY
  20. ChiradeepJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 12:58 PMWhat I would say, Ashrita? ‘Very thought provoking’, ‘Well said’, ‘Rightly pointed out’? Will my comments minimise any rape case? My head lowers down in shame… It’s not about physical only, we rape emotionally and mentally as well. Yes, I said ‘We’ because I am part of that group called ‘Men’. When God created mankind He gave males physical strength for a purpose: ‘To lead his family by earning and protecting…’ They took it very seriously and earned and protected only their own families, not others… Shame! Shame! Shame!You mentioned about 4 years old girl… I know about a baby of few months only… Huh! Hope this societal block will ever be removed. Feeling extremely down reading this.REPLY
    • AshritaJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:23 PMThis is a harsh reality of our society these days, We keep hearing news about brutal rapes, injustice, murder and violence. May be for a day, a week and may be a month we feel sorry about the victim but somehow we just don’t do anything about it. Why is it when we see or hear a girl who works at our home being beaten up by her husband, we turn blind ears and never do anything about it ?Today as I sit here listening to one more case of rape, I wonder what is it that I as an individual can change?REPLY
      • ChiradeepJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:25 PMYou are right… I keep troubling my mind with such thoughts as well when I hear but again forget…and your article again made me feel guilty of silence… But also I don’t know how to go about it… In a state of confusion… Huh! 
      • AshritaJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:33 PMI know, ‘silence’ is one of the major reason these cases are exponentially on rise. Either the voices are hushed by power or in the name of disgrace. Few cases that do come to notice are forgotten in the piles of cases that come up. I am not saying we can immediately bring a change but atleast we can try, can try to be vigilant, be compassionate and make a pledge to fight atleast one injustice that we across in our own daily life towards women. Communicate as much as possible, I believe writers like you can touch hearts, even if it’s not the world but at least few! They say habits are hard to break, guess we should all make fighting for women’s dignity a habit!
      • ChiradeepJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:37 PMVery well said Doc. And I am thinking as we right about love this Vday month I think we should keep one week for “Raising Voice” (In support of a woman) something like that. When I look at myself, I see a feeble me in this regard but as the a pen can be used like a sword and these days our types words have to work that way. Let’s do something about it positively. Keep poking me Ashrita.
      • ChiradeepJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:39 PMWrite*
      • AshritaJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:39 PMI am with you on this! Thanks for your support.
      • ChiradeepJANUARY 31, 2018 AT 1:40 PMAnytime for something good happening around us….

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Poet, author, servant of God the Heavenly father and the Lord Jesus Christ...working out his salvation with fear and trembling. - Not trusting in his own deeds, but depending totally upon the finished sacrificial work of Jesus Christ to be, by God's reckoning, a new creature, clothed in Christ's righteousness...which mortal humankind can never attain by their own weak efforts, apart from faith in Christ's work on our behalf. - College-educated, yet wise enough to see that what a man does will not be his ultimate identity nor affect how God sees him or her. - Called by God to do a very difficult thing...apart from God's grace, mercy and strength...to love the sinner (which we all--by nature--are) but hate the sin, which is only paid through Christ, God's Son, - My own God-given gift is that of being a Poet..showing that in all parts of life...God has a loving part in it...as hard as that is to always understand or perceive...given life's realities! Come join me on my journey of discovery?.

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    1. Jonathan Caswell Post author

      Should be able to click somewhere on the post…and it will get you there! At the near-bottom, there are links in blue—including this title and the blogger’s name—I just clicked on the title’s blue lettering and it brought me right back to the original post! 🙂

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  2. Mea Luken

    I did. And Horor I get from my Life. I protect mother and sisiters from bullying of their husbands (one of them is my father obviously 😉) and all 3 return to their husbands. Noone visiting me. I am a black sheep. Abonded. My neighborou, young Police man torture a wife and kids and I called a Police several times but they all are against me now. Entering in my Home whike I am out. Living a urin. Sperm. Cutting a clothes. Shoes. Furniture. They attend to put a fear in me. I am still writing a Complains to Croatian Goverment but still no prottection. Corrupcy is high and I am a single woman in the center of a city. I do not gave me a job. Economic isolattion. I am a bachelor degree. 40 year old. Single. With a small dog. Last dog jack russel someone poisoned. Horor is a price but rather live as a wolf than as a mouse. Some day they will poison me.

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    1. Jonathan Caswell Post author

      I don’t know how to help, but to pray for your situation. Any opportunity of escape? Take it if you can! I’ve been perhaps never lived like that. It’s hard for me to think about it. God bless you for speaking out!

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  3. TEP336

    In order to combat the problem of rape in our society, I have developed the following strategy. I teach my sons that no means no, that they shouldn’t ever treat women in a manner they wouldn’t want their sisters and mother treated, and that they must see to it that no other woman is harmed while they’re still able to stop it. As for my daughters, I teach them the fundamentals of self-defense and the handling of firearms and blades, in the event other people didn’t train their own sons in a similar manner. I also teach all of my children to be aware of their surroundings, to never go anywhere alone, and to make sure they always know where all of the exits are.

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